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Learning Curves

7/30/2016

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Learning, it never stops and this learning relates to whether it is about life, our beliefs or our self as a mover… The ups and downs of learning about who you are, who you want to be, who you think you are vs how you are seen.  Perception vs reality from others.

I find it totally fascinating, the older I get and the more I allow myself to learn, the less I know, the more confused I sometimes become - and the more at peace with myself I feel.

The more I open up to others about my own insecurities, fears and concerns, the more it is returned and it is so beautiful to form these deeper friendships based on honesty and trust.




As I come to end of my 9 months on the Newfield course, the more I have grown into who I am - every time I coach there is another learning - every time I coach a movement session - again there is a lesson.  

It’s staying open to this learning.

Of course there are days when I don’t feel it, see it or sense it - where I am stuck in myself, listen to the negative voice - allow it to be louder than the other voice that I would be far better off hearing!  

How wonderful it is though to know that and know that is what happens and then find a way to stop it.  Recently that has been by reaching out to the people in my life.

It can be very easy to close down and shut the world out - and it’s sad to think that is an experience for many people - including myself in the past.

Every day is a new opportunity - every moment a choice of how to live and be in this world - and be all we can and want to be.

My learning curve has been up and down - flipped me on my head - spun me round - got me dizzy and I have loved every minute of it.  

Without it I would not be in a place where I can write what I do.

I sit in a place of not quite knowing where to take myself next and that’s ok.  What I do know is there are people who can help me in the places I have no idea what to do and I can do the same for them -  learning together.

Whether as a coach, coachee, student, teacher, giver, receiver, supporter or leader - I am so grateful for this journey into myself and others.

Can I ask you take a moment to consider the lessons you have learnt in your life journey so far, who from and the impact it has made on you. 

Maybe tell them……


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let it go

7/22/2016

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Feel free to burst into song.

I actually just sat and listened to it and read the lyrics - pretty powerful, I never listened fully before.

Why this blog - because it is time for me to let go of some shit I’ve been carrying inside and is really not doing me any favours anymore!  It might have at some point in the past - protected me, kept me safe - but now - Nah… Now it’s a weight that I don’t want to carry.

It’s very easy to say “well just let it go” - wave a magic wand and poof its gone.  It doesn’t work like that - well not for me, nor for a few others I know and with whom I share stories.  Telling those stories though is a form of letting go and wow am I blessed with the friends I have that I can just blur it all out and offload with no fear of judgement and a total feeling of being loved - so special.

What I want to let go of is irrelevant, we all have stuff and we all let it go in different ways.  Right now I’m realising the more I talk about my emotions and let tears come, the more I am cleansed.  

All the experiences we’ve had have taught us something - and here I think about Inside Out and the memory orbs - how we chose to see those memories is up to us.  How we chose to have those experiences from the past affect us emotionally in the now - is again our choice.

I was swimming this morning and it really did dawn on me that I want to live a joyful life - be happy as much as possible - be in the moment - be with people I love - or if I’m alone, love being with me.

I appreciate this is again easy to say, it takes work and practise to stay in this space and there’ll be blips and wobbles (as another friend said!) - because we are human and we have feelings and how great is it to be a human being.!!!


I love my past - and from it I can see why I behave how I do sometimes, but it doesn’t mean I have to behave that way again.  

Every moment I am a new person, with a new choice to make - with a lot of stories to share that are both happy and sad - and they all make me, me.

Your stories make you - and take a moment to consider how great a person you are and if it hadn’t been for all the past you wouldn’t be you.  I know you might be going into “but I’m not a great person” - stop and find just one thing that is great about yourself, just one.  Each week keep it in mind and then add another to it - if all the stories from the past are pulling you back, one by one let it go and bring in a new story.  

It has been an amazing last few days for me - some huge realisations, some relationships deepened as I’ve let go and opened up and I sit here today with a smile on my face looking forward to each moment….

woooooohoooooooooo - must read this post myself as a reminder!!
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The Unknown

7/16/2016

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There’s lots of them in life, unknowns,  and learning to live in the space of not knowing is often uncomfortable for many of us.

What is it about it though, not knowing where life is taking us - job, relationship, country, health - is it inherent in human nature to want to know - to have the answers? 

On this journey of coaching we came across enemies of learning - needing to know, it struck a chord.  The desire to know the answer, know the reason why, have a more firm idea of what your life might be like, why you’re like you are.  

When I’m training people in movement, I often have NO idea what is going on for them - I’m not their body so how can I?  I can sense in myself - but it still doesn’t mean that I have the answer even for my own body.  After many years trying to figure it out, I can now accept that I don’t know with respect to movement.

Life on the other hand…

Is their such a thing as fate - or do we make our own destiny - is there only so much we can do in our day to day that leads us one way, yet the universe has different ideas.?  

I’m learning to live in this space of not knowing - have ideas, yes daydreaming I suppose, putting thoughts and requests into the atmosphere.  It still requires me to go and do something about it though - simply saying it in a whisper doesn’t change things.

And that’s where I believe the fear in many of us starts - the what ifs….  If we fail, if we succeed, if we’re judged by others, disliked, liked too much, go bankrupt, have to admit we we ‘wrong’- so we end up playing safe and staying a little bit longer in the comfort zone, because we know where we’re at.

As I write, I’m not even sure I know where I’m heading with this - will it make sense to those reading it, does it matter if it does or not?  The fear of posting my mental ramblings - what will people think of them?..  I don’t know.

I step outside my comfort zone - copy/paste - publish - simply writing about living in the space of no idea helps me to be here - be present in my life as it is - do what brings joy to my day and then - well who knows…..




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the art of make up

7/9/2016

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I’m not certain if this is an age thing, a confidence thing or a cultural thing, feel free to let me know your thoughts.

As I’ve ventured to different places in the world, something I’ve noticed is the amount of make-up women wear - and there doesn’t seem to be a particular age to it.  I can’t help but wonder why.

I remember on my 13th birthday - becoming a teenager and getting make-up was a huge deal - I was growing up.  I wore it - probably had the thick chin line at times when the foundation didn’t match properly (great look….) and I also went through a bit of a punk phase with eye-make up that went up to my hair line!  It was all about self expression, not about covering my face up.  I’m sure I didn’t wear it every day and at some stage it got less and less.  When I was 28 I went to work ball and had my make up done ‘professionally’ - I got home and took half of it off, I felt like a man in drag! 

When/what was the turning point for me of not wearing it at all?   I don’t know, I guess I just didn’t feel the need for it at.  It was also in part rebellion against a media driven world that seems to insist that women wear make up - therefore I wasn't going to!. 

Nowadays the media flaunts pictures of naked faced stars, oh then there was the Facebook ‘campaign’ - dare you post your face with no make-up - such bullshit...


Why do some women feel the need to wear it all the time and in such thick layers - is it self-confidence, not believing they are beautiful without it, hiding bad skin (and adding the problem of bad skin), or because they feel it’s what women are meant to do?

I was researching the how and when make-up started and came across this article - great writing

http://the-artifice.com/the-feminist-makeup-culture-reconsidering-cosmetics/

and the video is brilliant so please take 10 mins to watch it...

I have nothing against make-up - not like I used to, and I love how Eva DeVirgilis talks about it and if you don’t click on the link here’s a great quote:

Mykie, a self-taught, LA-based makeup artist,

“Makeup is supposed to be fun, positive, and you should want to do it for yourself. No one needs makeup, you don’t need it to impress someone, you don’t need it to feel beautiful, and you don’t need it to fit in. You should want it to have fun. You should want it to be expressive. You should want it to play around with or to enhance your already, perfectly, wonderful features sitting on your face… You may wear makeup and feel more confident and therefore attribute your confidence to makeup. But real, true, lasting confidence comes from inside and will be there even when you wash your makeup off.” 

She sums up my feelings towards make up perfectly and even inspires me to get more and play to express myself!!

Ladies out there reading this - love your faces without and with make up.
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Eva is right - we are all beautiful.
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    lisa....

    I have opinions on most things - and I am happy to listen with an open mind, seeing a different view. Please feel free to comment and tell me how it occurs for you..

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