Jumping on the Band Wagon ....

It’s not often I want to slingshot my way to stardom via someone else, however on this occasion I’m making a difference.  Two reasons, firstly I love being in this vlog from Kane and Pia, they stayed with us on Bawah to end their honeymoon and joined me in class one morning.  They are passionate about the planet and have an environmental line of fitness wear and mats, so we had heaps to talk about- a shared mission...  Second - I love how Bawah looks on this vlog, it really does show how beautiful she is, the surroundings and how far away we are from all others.  We are a small island with so much love, it is magical…

I don't know how people manage to live their lives on vlogs and share all they do!  I do to an extent in my weeee blogs but it’s not quite the same.  I take my hat off to those that do, it’s a whole heap of hard word.  Yes they are on 'holiday' but during that time they are thinking of content, how they look, how they come across, how where they are will look on camera and take the criticism as well as the compliments and that’s not easy.  We are wired towards hearing the negative and holding those few negative comments close to our hearts and forgetting all the good comments made.

I don’t think I could do it, I’m happy with my scribblings for the moment - I wish all those who make a living out of vlogs and IG and so on all the best.  It might look glamorous but I reckon underneath is a lot of work we don’t always consider - but that's the same for so much of what happens in the world hey!!!

So I’m jumping aboard this one, singing my praises that I appeared in this vlog not looking too shabby, hashtagging away and highlighting how AMAZING Bawah is a place to come to.  

If you decide to venture to this part of the sea, please come join me on the deck for an amazing mix of movement, in a beautiful setting with some of the friendliest people I have ever met and with whom I am grateful I live, breathe and work with.

#pikacrew #piamuehlenbeck #kaneandpia #vlogswithpia

Interesting as I sat and started to write this blog,  this is the 4th sentence starter…  How come I didn't know how to begin this when the thought came to me the day before that I wanted to write about values?  Why did I want to write this?  Because I’m reading Brene Brown’s book “Dare to Lead” - love her stuff!  Why did I procrastinate so much? 
Great question…  One of those moments of putting myself out there….

Now down to business, I have often read books and got to the bit where I have to do some soul searching and erm skipped it - I own up I don’t always do the work… (quick side note, not doing the work doesn’t get you anywhere).  Well this time I did.  She asked on page 188 to read the list of values she had put down and find the 2 that you aligned with…

2

out of about 60…

But yup just 2….  That’s what I thought too.

As recommended I reduced the list to about 10-15 and then saw some similarities between them and where I could join them together to be left with the 2 which when the going gets tough, I can remind myself of and they can give me the boost I need to carry on…

What did I come up with?

Authenticity

and

Make a Difference.

I have “struggled” with who I am, what I stand for (F-cubed was born from that question) and how to be in this world, accepting myself and allowing “me” to be out there.  This blog is part of that journey.  However sharing me in written words is relatively easy in comparison to sharing face to face or in a phone call with a friend - my closest friends know that too well.  

You know those feelings you don’t want to have or admit to, but we have them and then OMG to tell someone that is what you are going through and feeling? No thanks.  Way too much vulnerability (thanks again Brene for that work) and something I was not very comfortable with.  Wasn’t comfortable, still not 100%.  But the daft thing is, it is true that the minute you name it, it’s less scary.

Through self work, reading, chatting, coaching, practising and failing, getting mad at myself then calming down - I figured a few things out. Not everything but a few…

My trip to Yogyakarta was a turning point for me as well, temples have an interesting effect on me and visiting them there certainly made a difference to the way I see my current life.

Reading a little again about Buddhism has also shifted my perspective about life and it is what it is and not letting emotions control action.  This had come up before - does your mind control you or you control your mind?….  I wasn't ready to hear it then, this time it sunk in.

I feel I was ready to do my values anew, and I then decided to draw them and pattern around and when finished they will appear on my wall as a reminder.  And yes I do need a reminder - it is easy to forget.  I’ll share with you next time my newest tattoo and why…  yes I am keeping you in suspense….

I’m hoping Brene won't mind me sharing the list of values.  
Thanks…
With love

The last 5 months, well maybe 5 years have been very thought provoking for me.  From living in Singapore for 4 1/2 years, a very safe and convenient country with a range of living standards  (not all seen by all) and then moving to a luxury resort.  A resort that is in the middle of the sea, accessible only be sea plane (or boat) and one where attention is paid to the smallest of details. In the midst of those years I’ve been inside HDBs (housing development buildings) where the ‘old’ Singaporeans live, helped serve food to the Malay and Indian population of Singapore, many of whom are living just on the minimum wage. and then more recently taken a big old boat ride of 6 hours to outlying islands in the Anambas, islands who by western standards, have very little. 

I’ve met people who have what seems a bottomless bank account, a number of houses around the world and pop from one luxury resort to the next.

And I’ve met people who live in a wooden shack with a corrugated roof and cook their freshly caught fish over the coals the old fashioned way.

Who is happier? Who has a better quality of life? And based on what?

These recent meetings and experiences have all led me to question what life is about and what I want out of life. And with my recent adventure to Yogyakarta, I pondered more….

                                  What does it mean? 
Who is to say what a good standard of living is, a quality life? 
                Based on what? 
                              What do we really need....?

Over the years I visited a few villages, I’ve visited as a tourist and not known or thought too much about the people who live and grew up on them.  Now I do, and it is changing the way I see things.

The latest trip was to Mengkait, a very small island in the South China Sea, part of the Anambas.  On this tiny island live maybe 1000 people - living closer together than you live in Hong Kong that’s for sure.  Just across the waters is a huge island, why not settle there I asked....

Because they worry they may run out of water....

Having to go across every day to get the water they need means they are more conscious of what they use, if they had easy access to it they would probably use more and use too much and run out.

Smart hey!

It reminds me of Ellen MacArthur who was the first woman to sail single- handed around the world.  On her journey the realisation came to her that the earth’s resources are limited and as a planet we will run out one day....


Mengkait is dirty, filled with rubbish and plastic littering the streets.  They have established some form of economy for themselves.  The kids go to school, many fathers are fishermen, and their diet is mainly white rice, fresh caught fish and some green vegetables.  However there are many shop houses selling single use foods, drink sachets and household items - the bane of our plastic problem in the world.

As our boat sailed away, I caught myself thinking how we could help them establish industry, improve their economy and help them live better lives.

Better by whose standards???

By mine, my egotistical western mind thinking that how I have known to live is the right way to live. Who am I to say their lives are not fulfilled and they are not content with how they live?.  Unless I ask I don’t know and even if their answer is they’d like it to be different, is the Western way the best?

Honestly, I don’t think it is. Our consumerist nature, our lack of community and our long hours of work (that I question the necessity of) are not creating happy countries.  Many people and societies as a whole are driven to gain more and more at the expense of their health, happiness and overall well being.

These islanders are probably not the healthiest I know that, but they are strong in community and they have time with families and extended families. They sit and eat together, they don’t work round the clock and in many ways they don’t spend above their means.  

I did wonder as I looked at the many fishing boats bobbing around on the waters, how many men lose their lives to the sea - who goes out one morning never to return?  What happens next?

What are these children learning about life?  Skills from western ways or skills needed for the way they will live their lives and how many actually leave the islands - how many want to? And for what?  In search of......

The one thing I really do think needs to change for these few villages I’ve now visited, is the cleanliness, the reduction of plastics and the proper disposal of waste.  It’s a selfish wish as it is for the betterment of the whole planet and I say selfish because it is my wish.  I know there are many who feel the same, and these small islands are a great place to start. 

There are people out there doing this; BAF (the Bawah Anambas Foundation), https://www.bawahreserve.com/bawah-anambas-foundation/ ,  the Vega https://www.sailvega.com/ , Plastic Bank https://www.plasticbank.com/ to name a few.  Through BAF we are assisting them in waste management and educating them why to change.  But we also need to consider the manufacturers who continue to produce these single serve items - if they stopped there’d be less waste wouldn’t there??  

Let’s be real, that is unlikely to happen.  So in the mean time, we do our part, help these islands to tidy up - not to become "westernised" but to improve island hygiene, and to help them be able to keep fishing for their livelihoods. 

I have experienced a few things on these journeys - some new, some simply interesting to note. 6 hours on a big old boat having to squat over a hole to pee into the sea below. Washing with cold water I throw over me from a tub of collected rain water.  Freshly caught and cooked fish (and I mean fresh) barbequed over an open, old fashioned fire that tasted so much better than any other fish I’ve had in restaurants.  Mooring our boat by gently easing the smaller boats out the way; think bumper cars with less bump, sitting on the floor attempting to eat with my right hand (I gave up I admit and resorted to cutlery...), watching kids climb in a tree and pick up a scrap of plastic to swing about, chickens and cats meandering the wooden streets, houses on stilts, upturned satellite dishes for something or other, and all the while many have their mobile phones in hand....

What do many of these villages need?  Simple basic resources - school items, medical provisions, a dentist, education…  Not necessarily a change to the way they live, but maybe making the way they live a little healthier both for them and the planet.

As I watched those kids in the tree, I thought       

                      “what is life about?”

At the end of the day, I’m thinking that life is about simply living and living simply, learning, experiencing, and giving to each other and the earth in whatever way we can for the betterment of all life on earth…
Thank you..