Why are you in such a rush? What’s your goals, and by when?.
2 questions that I have been asked in the past and seem to contradict each other…. I will admit to working at a speed that is a tad quicker than most - and I’ve explored this. Is it a fear of missing out? Making up for Kim’s death by doing enough for the 2 of us? A need to prove myself? Because I don’t like sitting and staring into space and doing nothing?
Probably an element of all of the above and none of the above at different times in my life - jeez in my day!!!…
There was a great article posted about striving - it was a different way to view it, and it resonated with me; striving is good - as long as you celebrate and accept where you are. The latter is not my norm, still is a bit off and what I am working on - acceptance.
I was asked by a coach “What if where you are is it?” humph.
What if it is?…
If I say I want “more” - then does it mean that I am not content where I am? If I say I accept where I am does that mean I won’t strive to achieve more?
What is the balance between the two - is there one? And if I do want more - when do I want it by? Is it the goal or the journey that matters to me? aaaarrggghhh brain ache.
Where I am in my life - career wise, putting myself out there as a coach, movement educator and trainer - there is a sense of urgency now. I’ve held back, held myself back (for various reasons) and am now willing and wanting to move forward. Along the way I have enjoyed and continue to enjoy the journey of training and now coaching people, as well as learning so much for myself that translates across to others.
What I’ve realised is that this urgency has seeped into the rest of my life - relationships, friendships, training, and other hobbies. A place where for me; it has no place and serves no purpose. That rush has at times caused me to stress myself and stress others.
At the end of the day I love being able to work at a million miles an hour, in the same way that I loved to ride my bike fast rather than slow; where interestingly riding my fixed wheel slow leaves me feeling more unstable - a crossover into life?…..
I practise my bike control skills at times - and my ability to go slower and balance and still be in ‘control’ (ie not fall off) is improving. Will this skill translate into life - yes - if I PRACTISE it…..!
Herein lies the bottom line - yes there is a place for both urgency and enjoying the journey - and I believe I can enjoy an urgent journey as well as a meandering one!
The skill is to recognise which one serves me and when….
You gotta love this shit!!! I hope these questions and thoughts prompted some of your own and how this might show up in your lives...